Lemme look through your phone boo.. ;)

"To be trusted is a greater compliment than to be loved." -George MacDonald

Trust is a 5 letter word and while it's one of the hardest things to find it's also one of the easiest to lose. Nowadays I feel people have a really tough time trusting one another whether it be because of past indiscretions, paranoia, or just plain fear based from what they constantly see in the media. If you watch television on any given day it is filled with liars, adulterers, secret baby mamas, and loads of Maury "you are not the father" type shows that can convince the faint and strong of heart to just remain single and not put your trust in ANYONE..except your momma. LOL. Luckily for me I don't have a past soiled in scandal or unfaithfulness but even us strong hearted have the tendency to be overly careful when it comes to letting people into your "circle of trust".

Talking about trust leads me to the topic I want to talk about today and that is... going through the phone of your significant other lol. Even the most trusting girlfriends and boyfriends can't say they never got the urge to look in their partner's phone, even if only for a peek at a random message because you were being nosey. But when is it OK or is it ever OK?

Recently this topic was brought up and as we were discussing it I really realized how different people's view are on the topic. To me, I enjoy a certain level of privacy in all aspects of my life including the contents of my phone, whether that be from my family, friends, or boyfriend, but in the same token I am an open book with nothing to hide. My philosophy with my phone is: anything I text or send in private I have to not be embarrassed or arrested if it became public! lol Sounds extreme but that's forreal. So while I don't promote full access of my phone & messages to my boyfriend, it's also not a deal breaker if he does look through it (which he has and so have I) but that doesn't apply to every one.

One of my girlfriends is 100% ANTI going through each other's phones w/her boyfriend and while I'm not as strict, I do feel like I can understand why. Does going through your SOs phone mean you don't trust them? No. I think that it can but I feel like it really is 1. Something to do when you're bored, 2. A fun peek into how your SO (significant other) talks and acts when you're NOT around, and 3. To CHECK on what they are saying and who they are saying it to. lol. While some of those reasons are more harmless than others, I've come to understand that looking in the phone of your man or woman is almost always ALWAYS going to cause friction between the two of you, whether it be a lot or a little! lol Not because everyone is doing something bad that their SO wouldn't like but because there will ALWAYS be something that was said or not said that the other person thinks wasn't right, always. Por example: You're looking in your man's phone and some girl whose name you don't recognize says something like: "I heard Ex-Factor today and it made me think of you...." Now some questions are going to pop up in your head after seeing this. You're going to want to know, Who is that, WHY is she thinking about you during that song, WHY does she feel the need to tell you that, and WHAT kind of response is she searching for leaving all those damn ...'s at the end!!?? LOL! You see where I'm going with this? 

Now I'm not saying I know it all nor do I have everything figured out and I do think that going through each other's phone is most of the time harmless but it does have the potential to make someone feel some type of way. So the question is, is the risk worth it? lol

I really want to know what you all think about this topic. I know I'm going to get a colorful array of different answers but I am interested to know am I treating it too lightly or is going through someone's phone really not THAT serious?? Comment below, tweet me, or facebook comment me!

Thanks for reading you all! :) And like always.... SEE YA NEXT MONDAY!!


*MUAH!

What a Week!

I have to remember that now that I'm on the West Coast my time is behind my East Coast counterparts so I have to try to write and submit earlier! lol Oh yeah, so I'm in CALI! West Coast living, going going back back, WestSIDE, W's up, The Wood and any other West Coast reference you can think of. haha Clearly I'm excited because I'm currently listening to Bizzy Bone in true WestSide fashion...OK I'm done, I should be ashamed of myself lol.
But so far so good. I arrived out to San Diego on Saturday morning and it's safe to say I've been loving it ever since. I've escaped the cold of the East Coast and its been replaced with sunny days and 70+ degree weather (yes, I'm bragging a little bit lol) not to mention what is the Olympic Training Center. It is pretty beautiful. Today was my first day up there with the scenic view of the mountains, fully equipped sports medicine center and weight training center. Ok bragging again. 

This week has been pretty eventful to say the least. I've been approached with a certain business venture (that I can not speak about until it comes to form OF COURSE) so this past week I've been doing so much stuff down in Atlanta towards that. It sucks when you're working on something and you're so excited about it but you can not talk about it. Ahh, the FRUSTRATION!! lol 
But what I can talk about is me broadening my horizon and hiring a publicist/PR rep!! YAY ME! I'm really excited, she works in the music and entertainment industry so its something new for both of us but I think with me wanting to dive over to other things outside of track and her knowledge of the entertainment business we will be a wonderful match! Fingers crossed! :) We're still in that beginning phase but with my eagerness to work and her eagerness to work I'm sure that things will take off like a rocket. I'm about to BLOW UP!!! lol I'm humble but I'm hungry so I know that if no one else believes in me, I believe in myself

Hmm let's see what else has been going on with me? Really just packing up my house to move out and doing all the last minute things you have to do when you're moving. It's funny because you never realize just how much stuff you have until you have to pack it all up and move it. There has been so much sorting, donating, throwing away, and moving in my past couple days that I don't even want to hear the word 'MOVE' for years to come (though I'll be removing my stuff again from storage in about 2 months) :( Overall it's been quite the week! I'll be able to tell you all about what I have cooking up in the next couple weeks so just be patient with me OK? :)

As always thanks for checking me out and until next week...

*MUAH!

Pre Thanksgiving Jitters

By tracking my days this way (writing every Monday) I realize how quickly time is flying by. I feel like I just wrote my blog entry from last week about my giveaway (Side note: Congrats to the winners again! @TeamRunner4Life, Aeisha Ellen & Charlissia, @MGAlexandra1213, @VivalaRia, and @emmaverick23) and already I'm back writing out what is my life all over again.

This has been a rough week but not in the same stressful way that was my life two weeks ago, instead it's pertaining to training. My coach has been laying that hammer down on us!! All of us athletes know the importance of base training and how imperative it is to the success of your season but I mean DAMN!! lol We had A LOT of 300s today and its safe to say I'm pooped out. I literally came home from practice, got in the shower and laid on my bed for close to 2 hours in and out of sleep in a semi comatose state. If it weren't for my stomach feeling like it was eating itself I probably would still be lying there wallowing in my post-practice soreness. Yes I'm pouring on the dramatics lol but it really has been that kind of week between our weight room sessions in the morning and afternoon runs on the hill or grass, I AM TIREDDD, good tired. Butttttt enough about track!

Something fun and exciting will be coming up in the next couple weeks and I can not wait until then to talk about it so I'll start now... THANKSGIVING!! As soon as November rolls around I immediately start thinking about that last Thursday of the month and all the joy it brings for me.
I know that in a lot of households Christmas is the merry time of year where the family comes together to celebrate their love for each other through time and gifts but for my family Thanksgiving is that big holiday. Mostly because I grew up in a household where we didn't celebrate Christmas so Thanksgiving was the forefront holiday that our whole family came together and when I say whole family I mean WHOLE family! Its our mini family reunion of sorts every year us rotating between the 4 major locations that most of my family (paternal side) lives: Chicago, Delaware, Virginia and Georgia. This year being Delaware! I can't say I'm that excited about going up North with the brutally cold weather right around the corner but I am thrilled to see family. But with this year's excitement comes a little nervousness lol. I'm a very picky and private person especially when it comes to relationships but this year I decided to bring my boyfriend along to the Thanksgiving festivities, a huge first for me! Yes, yes one small step for mankind but one very LARGE step for Queen Harrison. I'm not embarrassed about being in a relationship nor trying to hide it but it definitely has a way of upping the antes when you decide to bring a +1 to any family function. Y'all know how aunties and cousins can be, asking all the cliche first meeting questions, "Who's he?", "How long y'all been dating?", "Y'all doing it?" lol OK maybe not the last one but in my overly analyzing brain I'm a bit nervous of what types of things may come out the mouths of my family members, both while I'm listening to them and while I'm out of earshot. BUT there are certain things you can't control and with that being one I'm choosing to not try to. Instead I'll just look forward to the fun, food, and family time!!

Who else is excited for Thanksgiving?? Tell me! Also let me know about and how you handled your first time including a significant other into family only events :) I love to hear from you all.

Like always thanks for reading and until next time...

*MUAH!

Did you say... giveaway?

Cue the music, TODAY WAS A GOOD DAY! No forreal it was lol. I had a lot of ripping and running around to do all this week, including today, but everything that I did was beneficial to me or those around me so I'm happy with all this progress I've made! I'm finally back home sitting in my favorite corner of the couch typing away and reminiscing on my weekend. My best friend Jaron came over for a "help me pack/movie night" and sometimes I honestly wish there was a secret camera recording us in here haha. We could literally taste the desperation when Jennifer Hudson was singing 'And I Am Telling You' to Jamie Foxx in the movie and Jaron and I were exuding all those same emotions as we reenacted the whole entire scene! Complete with dropping to our knees, crying faces, and tugging on the bottom's of each other's shirt when we tried to "leave". So funny! Thinking about it actually makes a little bit sad though because I know that nights like last night will soon be scarce because I'm moving from SC soon. :'(

Training, packing, donating, and throwing away LOTS of stuff took over the majority of my week so me going into further details about that is pretty unnecessary so insteadddd I'll get to the fun part, the giveaway part! Whoop Whoop!

So I'm new to give aways so my methods may be a bit unconventional but I'm sure they'll still be appreciated nonetheless.  I tweeted yesterday about it being the season of giving and me really feeling it! With Thanksgiving right around the corner and Christmas less than a month later, I feel like 'GIVING' will be all around us so I might as well join in on the fun and you all should too. 

The instructions are simple. Send me a tweet (@goqueengo) on twitter or comment on my Facebook fan page with the hashtag #GiveQueenGive with your name/twitter handle AND the name or twitter handle of 1 other person you'd like to gift something to also. And VOILA! You're entered. Both you and your friend, mom, teammate, babysitter, WHOEVER you choose will be entered to win special treats from Queen to you both. I will keep the giveaway open from tonight (Nov 4th) when I post it until the end of the day (11:59pm EST) on Wednesday November 6th. Any one can enter but please don't send more than 1 per day and don't forget the hashtag #GiveQueenGive or else yours may not be seen. I will randomly choose 3 (THREE) winners on this Thursday and post the names on my Facebook and Twitter accounts.

Now while YOU may only enter once per day, the more people you encourage to enter and add your name to their "give list" the better chance you'll have. 
No I won't tell you all what I'm giving away but I will say that you all will send a huge THANK YOU tweet to +Saucony once you receive it ;)

Thanks for reading, good luck, set... GO!

Word of the Day: Stress

2nd Monday in a row and I'm on a roll! :) I have SO many things I could write about that I'm having a hard time getting anything written because my mind is so scrambled.

STRESS.
Stress comes with the territory, this territory. In a profession where your livelihood and ability to provide for yourself is almost solely based on what your body can do and how it can perform, you begin to realize how important every little thing you do (and don't do) can affect your performance. And then comes the stress, exponentially piling up because you realize that you are no longer 100% in control of your actions so in turn, no longer in control of your stress levels.

The best way to describe my current situation is "the period of change". I briefly alluded to it on my last post but it's the changes in my living situation and training that are stressing me out the most. And when this Queen stresses, everybody watch out!
To those that don't know my coach (LJ) left his position out here at Clemson University last January and ever since then the burning question has been, "Where are we going next?" Last year because of good "pre-kicked out" preseason training, great coaching, greater hard work&talent, and the GRACE of GOD I was able to still have my best post-collegiate season thus far but that didn't come without struggle and a whole lot of hardship. But again those tales will be saved for another post but to give you a BIT of insight, below is a picture of me doing squats. Common right? Yeah, most track athletes squat but do you see where I'm doing them at? There is no gym and no squat rack, instead I am lifting at the high school track we had came to train at after getting put out of Clemson's track, weight room, etc. 

Yeah, just take that in! lol Now I'm definitely not complaining, the job got done for the year and I finished with the #2 time in the WHOLE WORLD this season (Thank God!!) but sometimes I wonder if I subtracted the struggle and minus the cold days we were left without training, if it could've been an even grander season. ?? Answers I'll never know and can't find out so best not to dwell on them.

Instead I've just been focusing on this season and beyond and doing the things necessary to keep from ever being put in that kind of situation again, which can be pretty hard in this sport. Being a professional track and field athlete, unlike the NFL or NBA, doesn't mean being drafted to a team or getting picked up by an owner to represent them, getting flown out to a brand new city and receiving the best of the best treatments and training on a daily basis in order to perform at your highest level. Instead, most track athletes stay with their college coaches the first couple years out, pray they get a lucrative sponsorship from one of the major athletic shoe companies, and have to rely on their own money in order to receive treatment and necessary recovery methods to perform at their best level. Yes, that is professional athletics for you lol.
A change will come in this sport, that I am sure of, but in the mean time I have to rely on my own funds and the benefits that I get from being an elite Tier 1 athlete (health insurance, grant money, and access to the Olympic training center) to prepare me for years to come. 

Speaking of Olympic training center (OTC), I recently (or not so recently) played with the idea of moving out to the training center in Chula Vista, CA to do my training during these cold weather months in South Carolina and while my coach is still ironing out the details of when we'll be leaving Clemson and where to. It's located right near San Diego is sunny Southern California boasting the best facilities, treatments, on campus dining, and Olympic coaches free of charge to me. If that's not reason enough for me to jump on the next thing smoking and want to move out West, my boyfriend now lives out there which makes this offer all the more tantalizing lol. One of the drawbacks though is that there are no sprint/hurdle coaches out there & I would have to be away from my coach. The OTC facilitates mostly jumpers, throwers, and multi-event athletes because they are known to usually receive the least funding in the sport so the center decided they want to offer these services to the most needy. But in a period where everything is so volatile in my life I think going out there to focus 100% on training and getting my workouts sent to me from my coach and looked over my the staff at the center, will give me a sense of ease and allow me to escape all the craziness going on with moving and relocating going on over here and especially since my lease at my current apartment is up the end of November so I HAVE to move regardless!

Now do you see why I'm stressing?? lol. I knew 25 was going to bring change and I prayed that it would all be for the better and I honestly think that with this new opportunity presenting itself to me is a testament to just that. Change is good, and change is going to come. I'll just have to trust my gut instincts and let my hard work and determination carry me the rest of the way.
Wow I actually feel a little better just from typing that!! :)

Well that's all folks! What are some ways you all deal when you have unwanted stress put upon you? And how do you keep reminding yourself that this isn't going to last forever? Let me know and thank you all for reading! Until next time..


*MUAH!

MeTime Mondays!

#MeTimeMondays

Usually when people think of "Me Time" I'm sure they think of a relaxing day full of pampering exercises such as massage, facials, manis and pedis and while that sounds GREAT it's time to usher in a new meaning, at least for me. Me Time Mondays will be regular days but before the day is up I am vowing to do at least one thing to make sure to further the Queen Harrison brand and updating my blog!! THIS BLOG!! (http://www.goqueengo.blogspot.com) Yes, every Monday you can expect a blog post from yours truly because whether I am aware or not there are a lot of people out there that look to me for help, encouragement, or just wanna see me because they think I'm interesting! And since I really love my fans, friends, and family ANYWAY what better way to show it then to give them funny stories, stimulating topics or just plain insight into what Queen Harrison is doing on the regular! 

Getting started, I'm currently sitting at my dining room table in my house in South Carolina. I just finished eating dinner (1st dinner I've made in my OWN house in about 3 weeks) and now I'm reflecting on the day and how my life is playing out esp since turning 25 in September. Sometimes, I honestly can't believe I'm 25 not only because I don't feel a day over 20 but because time honestly seems like it's in hyperdrive! Be that as it may, I'm claiming my year of being 25 to be my BEST YEAR YET and I plan on doing whatever is necessary to make sure that happens, even if that means leaving places and people behind and making major changes.

Speaking of changes... Today was my first official day back to training with my coach, Lawrence Johnson, and the 'BoogieFast Track Club' & boy am I wiped out! This year's set up is totally different; from the location (temporary) we're training at, mindset, to the members of the group! Besides LJ (coach) I am the only original member of BFTC left!! My homegirls/old TPs (training partners) have decided to fly the coop and take their talents elsewhere for their own personal motivations, leaving me behind with funny/crazy LJ and replaced by two baby divas in Brianna Rollins (100mH) and T'erea Brown (400mh)! The dynamic of the group has definitely changed (noticeably even after only ONE day) but I think that this group has promise and ability to be a force to be reckon with. Combining talent, beauty, and a host of egos and personalities I am VERY interested to see what becomes of this new BoogieFast group. But, I am claiming the best and predicting 3 new faces of USATF to emerge and take over the hurdle scene :) I'll save more insight into my new TPs for a later date and just focus on me now.

I just got back to South Carolina from the USATF Elite Athlete Summit hosted in Miami, FL this year. For those of you who don't know, it's much more than just a fun weekend provided by USATF to celebrate the athletes' accomplishments and instead is an opportunity for us athletes in such an individualized sport to come together to toss around ideas of how to improve the sport in this country and voice our concerns of the current state of USA Track and Field. I went down there a bit hesitant thinking that this was just going to be another time that everyone would just be talking a good game and nothing gets done but surprisingly with our new CEO in Max Seigel I actually am starting to buy into the idea that USA track is headed in the right direction, for the organization and for the athletes that are apart of it! But Miami wasn't all work no play, one thing about track athletes and that is that we KNOW HOW TO PARTY and have a good time!! lol Between competitive beach volleyball, partying at Cameo night club and the talent show put on by our alumni association, there was a LOT of fun to be had!

Of COURSE everyone there was required to take part in the talent show so you had world class athletes up there acting, reciting poetry, "singing" and even a lil bit of twerking!! haha I'm sure some video footage from the event will eventually hit the internet but until then I will just let you all's imagination run wild but I will tell y'all that I WAS in the winning group (S/O and shooodooop to my talent show partners: DeeDee Trotter, Jeneba Tarmoh, Brianna Rollins, Christine Spence, and Jessica Beard) and our performance was definitely camera and video worthy :)

Well it's getting late and I have to wake up early again tomorrow to lift at 10am and then practice again at 3:30 (YAY for 2-a-days) plus I want to post this before my midnight deadline sooo with that I'll say happy reading, thanks for visiting and I'll see yall next Monday! This is some of how I spend my #MeTimeMonday, how will yall spend yours? No matter what walk of life or career path we've decided to take I think it's important to promote your positive points and always look to better yourself, so why not NOW! (aka at least every Monday)

Smooches! Oh, and go check out my Work, Rest, and Play IAAF Interview if you need a little bit more of Queen Harrison before the end of the day ;) *MUAH!*

Life always goes on..

Hey yall!!

It's been quite a long time since I posted on my blog, I feel like I've been neglecting it but I usually only update when I feel the urge. So obviously, I got the blog ITCH :)

Quick rundown of what's been going on with me..

I am in the middle of fall/winter training down here in Clemson, South Carolina.  This is my first offseason that I am training with Lawrence Johnson (my coach) since the 2008 season so I am anxious and excited to see what I have to do and what comes of it when the season begins.

As of right now I will be running a couple meets during the indoor season mostly to get a gauge on how my training is going and also to give the world (and my competition) a little taste of what they have to look forward to for this 2013 outdoor season.  After failing to make the 2012 Olympic team in either hurdle event this past year it really put things into perspective of how my training must go this year for me to be successful and make the World Championship team in Moscow, Russia! Though I didn't make the Oly team I ended my 2012 season on a very high note in the 100 hurdles so I'm blessed for that.

In more recent and very sad news one of my girlfriends was recently killed about 3 days ago.  I understand that everyone has to die one day and that people die everyday but I have been fortunate enough to not have many people I know pass away so it definitely was a huge blow.  The way that I found out about it probably made it even worse.  To give a little background when I was in college and a year or so after I was in a relationship with a football player who got drafter to the KC Chiefs.  Because he played there and I would go to visit him frequently I began to become acquainted with a few of the girlfriends, wives, baby mother's, etc. of other players on the team since we'd be at the games together.

So, while I was out there I got to know my girl Kas.  Now if I sit here and say we're the best of friends I'd be lying because our main connection was through our men's professions but either way when you meet women who have a similar lifestyle to you and you both have to deal with the same things I think that it gives you an unspoken bond.  Either way, a couple days ago I got a call from my sister saying that she wanted to make sure I was OK and make sure B (my ex-boyfriend) was alright too because she had seen something on the news about a 25 year old football player in KC that had killed his girlfriend and then went up to the facility and committed suicide.  While I obviously wasn't in Kansas my sister and brother wanted to make sure that I wasn't and also that it wasn't B.  Immediately I hit up my girls from KC to make sure everyone was OK and that's when I got the news that it was Kas and I automatically started crying.  It really put things into perspective that you really never know what's going on in someone's head or household.  I had just seen Kas about 2.5 weeks earlier in Dallas when I went to a birthday celebration for one of my other girlfriends.  It was almost surreal because that CAN'T happen to someone I know, not someone who JUST had a beautiful baby and from what I knew to understand had a happy and healthy household. It was just a sad story and even worse that their child has to grow up without either of her parents living. 

So, that is the end of my depressing chapter of this post.  I will be heading to her funeral this weekend which I feel is necessary but I am also dreading it because I think it will really hit me that she really is gone when I see her and her family under these grave circumstances. All that I can do now is pray for the baby and be around for support to anyone who may need it.

Well, that's about all I have for today. I tweeted RIP Kas in one of my tweets a couple days ago and a lot of people wondered who I was talking about, now question answered.

Until next time!

Peace and Blessings,
 Queen